Everlasting Friendships

Some friendships are irreplaceable.

I was 24 years old, embarking on a second study abroad experience in Korea.  Stepping off of the plane was exciting, and the range of anticipated thoughts of how the semester was going to pan out enveloped my mind. It was going to be an outstanding semester.

Upon reaching the preplanned meeting place of all the exchange students, I was intrigued by the feeling of an individual who was intently gazing at me.  Turning to look at the person, I found the other gentleman was not offering a menacing, creepy stare, but instead a strangely welcoming stare that was both welcoming and amiable.  

Perplexing to me, he asked if I was a bboy (breakdancer), and I found it strange that he came to that correct assumption.  Maybe it was my outlandish disposition or my dissimilar style of dress, but that was the beginning of meeting one of the significant individuals that has shaped my life.

Lee Boli, a name that would become almost conjoined to my own, and we spent the rest of the semester embarking on adventures that I would never forget.

Friendships sometimes come from the most obscure interactions, but many become so pivotal to shaping our lives that they become invaluable to our personal being.

Therefore, it is important to know that some friendships that are irreplaceable, come from the most surprising interactions!

140 Pairs of Shoes and Nothing to Wear

Thought of the day: We can only wear two shoes at once… why do we need so many pairs?

One of the more stressful times of my life was owning a multitude of sneakers and living the life of a “sneaker head.”  The diversification of shoes that I owned in my closet was immense, and I had utterly committed myself to “win” the collecting aspect of sneaker culture.  As you have already surmised, there is no conclusion to the accumulation of commodities, as shoes are constantly being released on a daily basis.  Sneaker head culture glorifies the idea of hoarding, and boasting the “freshest” kicks.

Stress was a daily part of my life which stemmed from the constant need to triumph in owning the most profound collection and the unceasing maintenance needed to keep 140 pairs of shoes impeccable.  Although I met some astounding individuals during the course of my collecting phase, it was not for me.

The best part about owning so many colorful and rare sneakers was that I rarely had a sneaker that would match my outfit.  By choosing only the ostentatious pieces that would stand out or were immensely valued, I found that I did not have a casual pair of sneakers.

Oh the irony… 140 pairs of sneakers, and nothing to wear.

Generating Unrivaled Habits

The foundry  of a gentleman’s elegance is consistent habits.  To enable you to sift through the clamor and truly succeed at your niche through the sagacity of your routine, you’ll need the Minimalistic Gent’s guide to habits.

Ancient Greek philosopher Aristotle said, “We are what we repeatedly do.  Excellence, then, is not an act but a habit.” The habits we exhibit can either be deficient routines that inhibit our goals or superb actions that escalate our life.  As a modern gentleman, it is your duty to minimize the defective practices of your day and to be unwilling to accept anything less than brilliant superiority in all that you do.  Having the discipline to take consistent action requires an individual that has an authoritative rule over his personal life, and only through the regulation of your daily routines will you build a suitable regiment that will allow you to properly seek your goals.

To begin, a gentleman must understand that enthusiastically embracing change will allow for your concurrent lifestyle adjustments to be a facile experience that empowers you.  Someone who is unwilling to change will do just that, and not being content and comfortable will ensure you do not settle for a life of mediocrity.  The path may be difficult, but facing the grueling and arduous tasks of creating impactful habits will put you in an appropriate position of limitless potential.  As an example, finding serene peace requires you to face an ironic path that stems from the incongruity of your own persona; requiring you to deal with complications that are demanding and painful before finding the concord of your tranquility.  Understanding that the burdensome task of change can be strenuous, but having the austerity to be wholeheartedly committed to alterations of your comfort with an excited disposition will make it a much more painless experience.

Next, you must understand that the benefits of a constructive and meaningful habit change is a process that is not instantaneous.  Expecting instant gratification and results will eventually lead to you abstaining from the new routine and falling back on old traditions.  Understand that any substantial life change needs to be prominent in your life on a daily basis. It is your unerring commitment to constant adaptations that will refine your life over a period of time.  An example would be in the goal of losing weight, you can either make a drastic change to your diet and commit insurmountable time to exercise which may not be sustainable, or you can make compact changes over a period of months that are retainable.  Repudiating sugary beverages one month, and rejecting fast-food another month enables a much higher conversion rate because it is a habit that is not exceedingly difficult, when talking about health.  This habit is much more about the exaltation of a salubrious lifestyle than quick sprints of unfeasible tendencies.  Understanding that the constructs of your habit forming should be gauged to what you are comfortable with sustaining will enable you to continually form more routines.

Finally, a gentleman committed to self-improvement needs to continue his momentum in finding new habits that propel himself towards his audacious goals. A never-ending process, discipline is constantly tested in the realm of upgrading yourself into a more refined individual.  Abstaining from being content with one’s accomplishments is a certain way to always have purpose and intent to the commitment to success in all avenues of life.  With a hunger that is insatiable for success, you will take the initiative in setting yourself up to be prepared in relishing in the staggering potential you are meant to attain.

Renounce the personal choice to forgo your goals to revel in limitations, and instead, keep your discipline steadfast and apprehend that positive practices will take a period of time to be accustomed and engrained in your being.  The key to becoming the maximized gentleman that you ought to be is deep-rooted in your daily approach to life and the well established habits you are fixed in.  Aristotle understood the importance of firm conviction to your habits in order to be the outstanding, superb gentleman in contemporary society, and having a verifiable daily routine will enable you to accomplish your life’s purpose with zeal and determination.